The F*cket List, or Places To Die Before I Go

Everyone has a ‘Bucket List’, a tick-off sheet which itemises all the things you’d like to do, all the places you’d like to go, while you can. This is supplemented by the myriad of websites, news articles, and published books of the ‘1,001 books to read / 500 beers to drink / 73 quirky places you must see / 24 controversial celebrities you must follow on Twitter’ type of thing. Obviously this is all subjective; as an aside I’ve never owned any of the ‘Rolling Stone’ magazine’s top 10 albums of all time, and have never even heard of 3 of the 11-20 set, yet my music collection is (or was before I downsized) well over 300 albums (*).

I was chatting earlier today with another travel blogger, and the subject of Maldives came up; I said it was one of the places on my ‘places I’m unlikely to ever visit and that’s ok’ list; then I realised it might be an interesting thing to blog about.
Most travel bloggers always talk about the places (countries, towns, activities etc) they like, why they like them, and why they’d recommend them. Coming from a background in customer satisfaction, this tends to be unusual – people are more naturally inclined to talk about negative aspects of companies, of customer service, etc – although it makes perfect sense in a travel blog environment as people want to read about places they’re interested in visiting, with a view to actually going there. And where there are positive descriptions from travellers, coupled with active marketing activity from local companies and governments, people will want to pretty much go anywhere and everywhere.

Now, one of my travel-related hobbies is to do research into most places in the world, to learn more about the history and culture, and to ascertain if it’s a place that holds enough interest for me to want to visit. I’d have to say I’m quite open-minded on this – there doesn’t have to be a lot to perk my interest, and sometimes the more obscure the better. However, even I have my, shall we say, ‘reservations’ about a small number of places, and why I doubt they’d be on any plans in the near future.
Obviously it goes without saying that I’ve never been to any of these places so I’m only speaking from what I’ve found out in my reading up on them, but that’s kind of the point of the blog post!

1) Angola

If you were to ask my friends, they’d suggest strongly that countries like Angola would be high up on my list as they’re war-torn ex-colonial nations, and I appear attracted by ‘dark history’. However, in most cases the countries I visit with a bleak past are ones which are starting to recover from this history; maybe they’re going through a ‘period of reconciliation’, maybe they’ve even gone beyond that and are opening up museums to remind people of the horrors, a show of intent that it could never happen again, or maybe simply the spark/reasons for the darkness have been resolved or have simply just passed, and the country is a modern functioning nation again.
In addition, most of the countries that have a dark past also have other, unrelated, reasons to visit – for example Cambodia has Angkor as well as Tuol Sleng, Timor-Leste has scenery and diving, while much of Africa has wildlife and culture.

As far as I can tell, Angola has … not. Although the civil war ended a few years back, it still seems quite a lawless place (and that’s not including Cabinda, where only a couple of years back the Togo football team was fired upon).
Unexpectedly, Luanda, the capital, regularly tops polls for being amongst the most expensive city for ex-pats; the country is very oil-rich and there’s a big divide between those with money and those without. Several countries are like this of course – Gabon, Venezuela, some might even say the UAE – but they don’t have the negative feelings that Angola brings.
Once you leave the towns on the coast, there’s nothing I’ve seen or read that really attracts me either; if you want remote desert, then go to Namibia – if you want rainforest there’s a myriad of better destinations. Savannah? Mountain ridges? East Africa’s your destination. There’s nothing that Angola has that other neighbouring countries don’t have better; these countries are also much safer (with the possible exception of DRC!), and much easier to get into.

2) Chad

Imagine Angola with a much greater proportion of desert, and less oil.

Chad is one of the driest countries in the world, one of the hottest, and also one of the most corrupt. It’s never really been a unified state – the French colonial rulers created the administrative borders but other than that didn’t seem to really bother with it (much like Burkina Faso) and not long after independence, the fractious nature of the country exploded into an on-off civil war that has continued pretty much to the present day. Relations with neighbouring countries have also been tense-bordering-on-angry for pretty much the entire history of the nation.

As such, apart from dodging bullets in one of the many rebel assaults, there doesn’t seem to be much to do there. One of the most pretty and historically interesting parts of the country, the Ennedi desert area, is also one of the most lawless, whilst the capital (N’Djamena) is fairly un-noteworthy, often the battleground in coups and assaults, and one of the hottest and most uncomfortable cities on the planet.

I’ve honestly yet to find a good reason to visit Chad 🙁

3) Maldives – or really “Honeymoon Destinations” / “Small Hot Islands” in general

I always need a ‘reason’ to visit somewhere; I travel to see things and be ‘active’. I also have a low boredom threshold; I’m restless and always need to be moving on (it’s been suggested I have ADHD, which may explain also why I never get round to updating my blog in good time). Therefore I like to visit places that not only have an array of historic and cultural sites to explore, but which are also easy to leave and move onto somewhere new.
In addition, my style of travel is very much geared towards backpacking – cheap and cheerful, hostels, street food, etc, rather than luxury hotels with en-suite Jacuzzis and Michelin-starred in-house restaurants. In fact, even the idea of all-inclusive resorts makes my stomach churn, regardless of the quality and the other guests; my objections to these sorts of places could equally apply in principle to the likes of Benidorm and Magaluf.

Unsurprisingly therefore, destinations like Maldives, Seychelles, and many parts of the Caribbean are pretty much my idea of a ‘Holiday-From-Hell’.
Stuck in a purpose-built resort on a small island (many in Maldives are even the entire island), with very little to do other than lie on a beach, do watersports (I can’t swim), or … er … that’s it, eating only what the resort/restaurant can provide (which is likely to be nothing like the food that the locals eat), and not really having the opportunity to explore the country, doesn’t strike me as a terribly productive way to spend two weeks. I’d get bored after two hours.

Such places are also incredibly expensive. On my travels I was budgeting at £30/day and invariably came in much lower than this on average. This means, including airfare, I could comfortably spend £1,000/month on travelling. For places like Maldives, you’d be lucky if that gets you a week. In the resorts, what’s not included in the initial cost is likely to be heavily marked-up (being an island in the middle of nowhere, as well as having no competition); this applies to everything from travelling to other islands to a simple extra bottle of water.

Yes I know you pay for the exclusivity, the paradise, the relaxation, but that’s not what I want on a holiday. I go away to excite myself; my travels are amphetamine, not morphine.

4) Japan (cf South Korea)

I have no idea. This one flummoxes even me.

In principle, Japan should be a shoe-in. It ticks all my boxes: dark history (shogun era, WWII), food (I love noodles and sushi), scenery (Mount Fuji), and culture (some of the quirkiest in the world). Add in reliable transport, the cutting edge of technology, and the world’s best toilets (?!), and we should have a country that I’d be dying to keep returning to, rather than avoiding.

I think, in part, my reluctance is social. Japan is a very crowded and busy nation, at least in the cities, and I have the impression in my head that it would be quite ‘intensive’ for a first-time visitor. This is the same reason that, while I definitely do want to visit India, I wouldn’t do so as a solo traveller.
Related to this is also the language barrier. More so than in most countries I have visited, Japan seems very mono-lingual. I’m not a linguist by any means, (though even I just about got by in Uzbekistan after all), and I fear that being bombarded with nothing but Japanese might well be too much for me.

There’s also the fear that, despite being so technologically advanced, it’s very much cash-based, coupled with an impression that it’s a relatively expensive country, even for a Brit like me. I’d therefore be constantly worried about ‘do I have enough money; can I easily get any more’, and that may cause me to worry too much and miss out on things that I’d otherwise like to see.

I suppose, in general, Japan isn’t on my ‘places to visit’ list because I’m not certain that I’d enjoy it; that I might get there and find I just can’t cope with it, and not enjoy it (like I did in Ethiopia, but for different reasons). And maybe I want to like it, so I’m keeping it at arm’s length, where it can’t affect me, like some kind of spectacular diamond.

5) Philippines

Don’t get me wrong, I love what I’ve seen of the region known as ‘South-East Asia’, and in the back of my mind I always have this pressing longing to return to the lands of temples, spicy food, and incomprehensible scripts, to visit cities and places imbued with culture and history – Mandalay, Bangkok, Borneo – names that live forever in Western minds as exotic and mystery.

On the edge of this sphere, but no less intriguing, lie the islands of the Philippine Archipelago. Some may see them as a kind of Northern extension of the Indonesian islands, albeit with a slightly cooler climate and a much stronger Catholic tradition. Their history is tied to colonialism, and that, along with recent dictatorships and notable street food, surely makes it somewhere high on my list.

Except that it isn’t.
I suspect that’s partly my own fault for not really looking too hard into what it has to offer, but also that when I have looked into it, nothing has really grabbed my interest, and I’ve always been distracted by shinier things/places in the region.

Let’s start with the obvious – Manila isn’t the most handsome city in the world – big, underfunded, messy, dirty, crime-ridden, hectic -, and I’ve come across very few people who’ve ever expressed a liking for the place. It’s interesting though that that description could be applied to many cities across the globe (Jakarta, Bangkok, Cairo, Lagos, Glasgow … 😉 ), but I’ve never heard anyone rave about Manila in the same way that these other cities have their promoters.

Owing to its history, Philippines has a lot of American influence and culture, and maybe in part my ‘dismissal’ of the country has to do with wanting to go to places less defined by their relationship with the USA; no matter how weak that influence is, it’s always going to be in the back of my mind. I’m not saying that American culture is a good or bad thing, just that if I wanted to experience it, I’d go to the USA – plus, being British means I’m already well aware of it from my own home life, so I prefer to experience different cultures. For many travellers of course, the blending of the two cultures is, in itself, a reason to visit – I guess just not for me.

To even get to Philippines, I’d probably have to travel via somewhere else in SE Asia, and no matter where that is, the chances are that the pull of my intervening destination (Thailand? Indonesia? Malaysia?) would be stronger than my desire to carry on. In a sense therefore, Philippines suffers from being, in my eyes, somewhat in the ‘wrong place’.

I’ll concede these are probably ‘weak’ reasons, but sometimes maybe I just don’t fancy a place with no real rational explanation?


What about you? Is there somewhere on your ‘I will never go there’ list? Or do you think I’m being harsh with mine?

* – I’ll concede that most of it is generally regarded as ‘poor, becoming shite’. The entire back catalogue of New Kids On The Block, FFS … :p

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13 thoughts on “The F*cket List, or Places To Die Before I Go

  1. I have never considered doing a “F*** it” list before and I have never seen other people doing it, but I sort of like the idea of it.
    There are definitely places I’d never want to visit. Yes, I’m looking at you, Syria. And Iraq. And all the others like the ones I just mentioned 🙂

    1. Hehehe 🙂 It just struck me as an idea as people always ask “where do you want to go?”, and I just think, “wow, where would I *not* want to go?!”.

      I’d love to visit Iraq and Syria, just …. not right now 🙂 Both are incredibly historic and cultural places with plenty to see in them – or at least there *was* plenty to see, but over the last couple of decades (certainly in Iraq) things have been slowly ruined. One of the major Babylonian cities – I forget which, Ur I think – was used for many years as a US army base! Boo … !!

  2. I’m totally with you on Iraq and Syria, Ian! I’d LOVE to go there (not now of course :):), history and culture is AMAZING, and from what I’ve heard, people are incredibly kind and hospitable. I want to eat myself alive I haven’t taken the opportunity to see Syria before the mess. Many people I know have done it and absolutely loved it.

    Places I have absolutely no interest in going – Subsaharan Africa (except Namibia, Ethiopia and probably Zambia, Kenya and Zanzibar, but there are many other places I’d much rather visit than these countries anyway), Guyana, French Guyana, Suriname and Paraguay, some Central American and Asian countries (like Honduras, El Salvador, Bangladesh, Pakistan, Afghanistan, Malaysia, Saudi Arabia…), Canada and if it wasn’t for my dear friends ;), Australia, England and Denmark would be on the list as well. 🙂 In Europe, it used to be Belgium and Luxembourg, but thanks to my great friends living there, I visited and absolutely loved these two! The best is when you have no expectations whatsoever, and then the place (and its people) surprise you!

    1. Oddly, I would like to visit Paraguay, partly because it’s absolutely not a tourist destination (Lonely Planet don’t have a book on it!), and partly because it’s far easier than *not* visiting it as it’s ‘in the way’ of my planned visit to Bolivia. I’ve read one travel writing memoir on it – ‘At the Tomb of the Inflatable Pig’ – from a Brit who lived there for a couple of decades, and he himself spends most of the book going ‘everyone thinks it’s a boring place, even the people who live here’.

      I’ve never given a thought to Central America, but I don’t have any pressing desire *not* to go – it’s a part of the world that I’ll probably visit at some point in passing – a 2/3-week quick trip like I did in SE Asia. I have heard good things about Costa Rica specifically, but the other countries there merge in my head into a veil of civil war, forests, and ancient civilisations…

      Belgium’s ace! Great beer, very quirky culture … the world will be a more maudlin place when the Belgians finally see sense and let the country break up into two. Or three. Or four. If they can ever decide. 🙂

  3. An interesting list!

    Honestly, I never had any interest in visiting Japan until I moved to South Korea. I never ended up going there but I wish I had. In Korea, I found that I was surprised at how much I loved the landscape and culture, and I feel like the more I learned, the more I loved it.

    There are plenty of places I’ve never thought of visiting, but often I always find something intriguing after I start looking. The only country I would say I don’t want to visit is North Korea. I feel it would be like going to a zoo that severely mistreats its inhabitants, and I don’t want to support that.

    1. Yes, I can understand about North Korea. Visiting it is not so much visiting a country, but rather a theme park on a coach tour with a very strict holiday rep. It’s probably (perversely) the safest country a foreigner can visit, but it wouldn’t be very interesting as you wouldn’t really learn anything about the way the country is (or maybe, in a strange way, you would?!).

  4. I agree on some. I want to go to Japan though, see the cherry blossom. I also completely agreed on the all inclusive Maldives type holidays- they’re hell! I was completely against ever going somewhere lik that until recently a Maldivian friend messaged me to say that his dad was opening a hotel on an island and did we want to go and stay.. For free. He plans to take us to his brothers islands too, go diving, meet his family in main land Male.. This seems to have turned the trip into a more affordable and much more enjoyable experience! I like the idea of this sort of list.. I’m going to get thinking on my own one now! I’m inspired!

    1. Ah see, that’s cheating :p But certainly having a contact in a country makes your experience of that country a whole lot different to if you go as a standard ‘tourist’. Even so, I still doubt Maldives would be quite my ‘cup of tea’ as it were!

      Yes, be interesting to see your list – of course these lists are always changeable but everyone’s will be different and it’s a good way of seeing how people think, how they tick; most people want to go to the same old places, but seeing where someone doesn’t want to go, I think, shows much more about what’s important to them when they travel.

  5. UAE, Saudi Arabia, Bahrain, Qatar, are places that I have no interest in travelling to. I have the impression that they are hostile towards women, and focus very much on oil money.

    Afghanistan is also a place I also have an impression that the regime is hostile towards women, and not to mention a civil war zone, but yet, I cannot quite put it on my NO-GO list as there is something still intriguing about it, and that “something” is the different mish mash of ethnic and linguistic groups.

    Bali where bogan drunken Australians ruin the place has turned me off Bali forever. Such a pity because the photos of rice terraces look amazing.

    Until recently, Japan would be on my Not-Too-Interested-List because of a perceived sterility about it, but I am very much changing my mind and impressions about Japan, and can see myself visiting hopefully in the next few years.

    England has no appeal to me to return to. I have been to London and a couple of other places briefly. But I have no desire to return.

    Ireland also has no appeal.

    Wales – no, sorry not interested.

    Sudan and South Sudan are two countries I cannot see myself setting foot in.

    Nigeria, no thanks.

    Somalia – not with the current problems.

    India may be able to change my mind one day, but right now, I just consider it would be an overcrowded hot mess, and intimidating for my introverted self. But my mind may change about this one, one day.

    Bhutan is a place I am unlikely to set foot in.

    Bangladesh holds no appeal for me. I think I have seen a documentary too many about women having acid thrown on their faces. Unless attitudes to women change, it is nit a desirable destination.

    Luxembourg is not interesting, in my mind. I would love to be proven wrong, of course.

    At this point in time Canada and New Zealand ….. But …. I will probably visit New Zealand and Canada later on in my travel life, because right now, they seem so culturally similar to Australia, and right now I want to experience different sorts of cultures in my travels. But the scenery that New Zealand and Canada offer are very appealing to me.

  6. Thanks for sharing this ‘F*ucket List’ with us. Made for very interesting reading! Your reasons were very well articulated even though we might disagree with one or two of your objections. For example while we totally agree with you about the Maldives being boring and expensive, we found that it made sense to pair it with a visit to nearby Sri Lanka. After 1 week of travelling through Sri Lanka, relaxing and doing nothing more than snorkeling and chilling in the Maldives was a welcome way to end an epic trip.
    Interesting nonetheless.
    Travel comes down to personal preference. One person’s F*cket List is another person’s Bucket List. That being said, we have a few Not-too-sure countries of our own.

    * Turkey and Egypt – Both very historic and beautiful countries. However, with the recent issues around security and problems with dictatorships, we feel that our hard earned tourist money will go towards propping up those regimes. Same goes for places like Zimbabwe, Philippines

    * Russia and Ukraine – Nothing against both countries but we’re just not sure how well we will be received as black travellers. We’re on the fence with these two.

    * Mauritania, Algeria, DRC, Gabon, CAR and other African countries with delicate political and safety situations. Apart from those, all other African countries are up there on our list.

    * Iraq, Afghanistan and Syria – For obvious reasons

    In summary, the world is a beautiful place and its the people rather than the wars and events that define where we want to go. Nothing is really off the table except our lives are likely to be at risk.

    1. Hey, cheers for the comment 🙂

      The thing about a list like this is that it’s always subject to whims and changes of feeling. I’d love to go to Iraq and Syria; they’re full of history and culture, so while neither are particularly ‘advisable’ at the moment, I’m not putting them on this anti-bucket list because I fully have the intention to go there at some point in the indeterminate future!

      With places like Zimbabwe (I was there at the start of 2016), yes on the one hand it’s hard to justify handing money to dodgy dictators, but equally by not going, it makes the lives of the everyday people (who generally don’t agree with the dictator, or at least don’t care either way) that much harder. I made a ‘policy decision’ some while ago not to boycott countries based on their government’s policies, but I’ll concede that I have the general ability to do this easier than many other travellers. It’s true that some of the places I go, I may choose not to if I were someone else, and I’m certainly not going to recommend everyone going to all the places I visit (my original tagline was going to be: “I go to these places so you don’t have to”!).

      In summary, the world is a beautiful place and its the people rather than the wars and events that define where we want to go. Nothing is really off the table except our lives are likely to be at risk.

      Yep, I think that’s pretty much exact! Go where you can, just know your limits and your comfort zone. 🙂

  7. Appreciating they aren’t countries I was still surprised you hadn’t mentioned Disney parks as places to forever avoid… 🙂
    I like the idea of a fuckit list but mine would contain about 80% of countries, those that appeal are quite a short list and overwhelmingly in Europe or the Americas. Of those places you might expect I’d be interested or happy to travel to, my fuckit list would include: 1) The Canaries (sunbathing – boring, nightclubs – hideous), 2) Las Vegas (I don’t like gambling, other than playing the lottery), 3) Turkey (nothing that makes me think ‘yes’), 4) New York (I have no idea what the appeal is, it just does nothing for me as an idea)…

    1. Haha. Yeh I probably need to re-do this post and make it less about countries and more about experiences. I went down the same porthole with my Podcast Episode on the same topic. I should have talked about concepts as well – I have several of those (like, you know, Bungee Jumping).

      When I said once “Times Square, it’s a bit dull isn’t it?”, a sizeable number of my Twitter followers repsonded with comments like ‘OMG I am soooo glad you said that; I’ve felt the same but been too wary of saying so!”.

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